When you grow up with a neglect wound, you learn very early that your needs might not matter — or at least that they aren’t safe to express. Instead of reaching out for care and attention, you become skilled at blending in, minimizing yourself, and making sure others are comfortable.
This is where the fawn response shows up most strongly in your communication. You might notice yourself saying “yes” when every part of you wants to say “no.” You may find that you apologize often, even for things that aren’t your fault. Maybe you go out of your way to keep the peace, avoid conflict, or soften your words so much that your real feelings get lost.
At first glance, this might look like kindness, empathy, or diplomacy — and in many ways, it is. You’ve developed a sharp sensitivity to the moods and needs of those around you. But underneath, there’s often fear: fear that if you speak your truth, you’ll be abandoned, rejected, or invisible once again.
The neglect wound can leave you doubting whether your voice has value. You might silence yourself before anyone else can. And while this can protect you in the moment, it can also lead to relationships where you feel unseen, unheard, or taken for granted.
Here’s the truth: your voice matters. Your needs matter. And learning how to communicate without fawning is not about becoming harsh or unkind — it’s about finding balance. It’s about letting yourself show up as you, not just as who others want you to be.
If this resonates with you and you’re ready to learn more about yourself — reach out to book your first session.
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